How to connect Netbeans and Xampp mysql serve?

Question

to add delete update through Netbeans GUI from and to Xampp mysql server.

Answer 1

if I understand what you ask, you may want to execute from your java program, SQL queries as you would do manually from the command line.
Runtime.getRuntime.exec(yourCommand);
can come handy.
below a comprehensive tutorial about that:
http://www.mkyong.com/java/how-to-execute-shell-command-from-java/